“To love another person is to see the face of God.” –Victor Hugo
“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” –Proverbs 27:17
“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” –CS Lewis
I spent a lot of time over the past 8 weeks reflecting on each of these quotes. I know exactly how many weeks it was because that’s how long it took me to knit a blanket. It wasn’t just any blanket–it was “the” perfect blanket. I designed and knit it for a family so special to me that I honestly don’t even know how I am going to write this blog post without crying. So sit back and wait for it, because this post is going to be a doozy (which spell check tells me isn’t a real word…I call foul).
I have been blessed in my life with the opportunity to travel and live overseas with Marcus’ job. It has brought us so much closer together as a couple and we’ve come together as a more cohesive family unit. It has also meant that we’ve had the chance to meet people that might not have otherwise crossed our paths. I think there was a time where I would have called that “coincidence.” Now, though, I know it was God’s hand in my life.
I know that God put Jody and Rachel and each of their children in my life to fill a void that I didn’t even know existed. Like I wasn’t complete until I met Marcus and he and I were joined together, I feel like I can also say that we weren’t complete until we met them. Marcus and Jody are able to work together and play together, each bringing out the best in one another on personal and professional levels. Rachel and I do the same, each bringing something to the table that the other is lacking. Like in my marriage, and in theirs, the extrovert and the introvert have paired up as a perfect match. And so when the four of us are together, it’s more than friendship. It’s like family. It’s like home.
It’s not only Jody and Rachel as individuals (though that’s a huge part of it), but it’s also the connection we have felt and shared with them on a religious and spiritual level. We’ve grown closer to God through our friendship with them. It has, and they have, changed my life. I’m prayerful about what will happen to that change when they leave, in stages, over the next several months.
I am struggling so much with their impending departure. The curse of living overseas and working with the military is that people don’t stay. I absolutely despise that part of this experience.
To pass the time, and as part of my Lenten experience, I decided to knit Jody and Rachel a blanket. They had longingly admired the blanket I was making for Marcus, and I thought that a blanket would be a nice gesture. I would knit prayerfully and focus on the good, and not the sad. When I couldn’t find a blanket pattern that I liked after scrolling through patterns on Ravelry, I knew that I should design one myself.
The “Perfect Match” blanket was born out of love. Out of necessity. Out of prayer and peace and loss and happiness. Every stitch was considered and deliberate.
There are very few projects that I have worked on in my life that I have been sad to finish. This was one of them. I cried as I weaved in the loose ends and folded it up.
I don’t want them to go.
Rachel is my practical, calm, prayerful friend. She’s the logical one. Our friendship isn’t ending because they are leaving. We’ll see each other again. The internet, Facebook, email, they’ve all made the world smaller and distances relative. So true.
I don’t want them to go.